Wedding Day Traditions: Who Pays?

We’ve had so many conversations over the years with Brides about traditions and how they feel about them. In todays age, some traditions will always stay and some will be broken but we wanted to discuss something we’ve been asked about often: who pays for what part of a wedding. Keep in mind, there are no rules, everyone will have their own take on traditions and wether or not they want to follow them but we wanted to give a bit of detail on who pays for which part of a wedding day, traditionally speaking.

bride and groom exchange vows surrounded by family down grassy aisle on wedding day

What does the brides family pay for?

The wedding dress and all accessories such as heels or the veil are paid for by the bride and/or her family. The reason for this is something that was quite normal many, many years ago but it incomprehensible in most parts of todays world: the Bride was essentially sold off as property or chattel to the groom/his family and the bride would become a ‘financial burden’ on the groom in life so the parents of the bride would, as part of paying a dowry, pay for the wedding dress/the majority of the wedding day in the hopes that the groom would take the bride.
Additional things the Bride/Brides family pay for:
  • the grooms ring
  • Wedding photography and/or videography
  • The reception and the services used such as food/catering
  • All wedding party transportation
  • Flowers and decorations
  • Wedding stationary, invites and wedding programs
Bride walking down aisle with father of the bride during church wedding filled with family

What does the grooms family pay for?

Due to how a lot of these traditions started out, the grooms family doesn’t shoulder as much of the burden, especially planning wise. The groom/grooms family will usually pay for the honeymoon, traditionally speaking of course, as well as the brides bouquet, the alcohol and entertainment at the reception, both of the brides rings and the grooms own outfit. The groom or his family also usually covered the marriage license and the wedding officiant.
With all that said, we’re finding it more and more common for traditions to be changed up with or broken in favour of new ones. These days, you’re more likely to find the bride and groom will just pay for everything together or at least the majority of everything on a wedding day. Ultimately, it’s up to each individual couple and what, if any, traditions they are passionate about carrying forward and how they go about that.
Have you got any traditions you want to stick to or do you plan on creating your own? Let us know in the comments below, we’d love to hear your ideas and opinions!

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