It’s a beautiful moment and an amazing honour when someone asks you to be their bridesmaid but what does it include? In this blog, we wanted to cover a closer look into the duties of a bridesmaid and what to expect after you’ve taken on the honour of becoming one. Being a bridesmaid may not always be glitz and glamour but in the end, it’s certainly more than worth it!
(Pictured: Bride Jessica Oey in her Euphorie Studios custom made wedding gown)
1 - The bridesmaid’s dress:
We thought we’d start with the most obvious yet mandatory part, the gown for your friends wedding day. Generally, bridesmaid’s are required to pay for their own dress for the wedding day. Sometimes the bride herself will choose this gown and other times the maid of honour will assist in picking a colour or style for you.
2 - Wedding planning:
While this isn’t always the case, sometimes brides may ask for help and ideas when it comes to planning their wedding, including stuff like cake tasting, decorations, choosing a venue, creating invitations and more. Something to keep in mind is the fact that you’re human; you only have so much time to help the bride no matter how much you may want to do. If you’re asked to help out with wedding planning, it’s a good idea to be up front and honest about how much time you’ll be able to dedicate to helping out so that you’re not over-committing to things you won’t have time for. Keep in mind you’ll also be expected to attend the pre-wedding events such as the wedding rehearsal, rehearsal dinner, engagement party and possibly even fittings if the Bride is getting a custom made wedding dress.
(Pictured: Our #euphorierealbride Huyen's bridesmaids)
3 - Gift transport or cleaning:
Sometimes the bridesmaids & groomsmen can be expected (or politely asked) to lend a hand in helping clean up the venue after the wedding or even left in charge of bringing the wedding gifts to another location for the Bride and groom. If this is something you’ve been asked to do, trust us when we say it can often be a good idea to keep a change of clothes or at the very least shoes for once everyone else has gone from the venue if you’re going to be cleaning. You will have been on your feet all day, often in heels, so keep a comfortable pair of shoes in your car or near the venue somewhere if possible.
4 - Wedding gifts:
Speaking of gifts, it’s a good idea to coordinate with the other bridesmaids when it comes to buying a wedding gift for the Bride. Setting out a budget you’re all comfortable with and sticking to it is important, as is knowing in advance how much you’ll be expected to spend.
5 - Lend a helping hand:
Wedding’s are an incredibly stressful day for the Bride but one of the best ways you can be of assistance to your friend on her big day is to lend not only a helping hand but a helping eye: keep an eye on your friend to ensure her make up stays the way she wants it to (or warn her if she needs a touch up as the day progresses). It’s a great idea as a bridesmaid to create a wedding emergency kit with things like make up, some painkillers, the brides cellphone, safety pins or clips for her wedding gown and any other items or accessories that may come in handy throughout the wedding day, just in case. (Extra tip: add some snacks into your wedding emergency kit, you never know when they’ll come in handy on the big day!)
(Pictured: #euphorierealbride Huyen with her bridesmaids)
6 - Bachelorette Party/Hens Night:
Whether or not you are chosen to be the maid of honour or a bridesmaid, planning a bachelorette party tends to be a group exercise between all bridesmaids. Hens parties will vary for each and every bridal party, but there is a lot to keep in mind when helping to organise this. Things such as making sure everyone is free at the right time, ensuring everyone can afford it or choosing a place that suits your bride are all important factors to take into account when planning a bachelorette party.
7 - Helping the Bride get into her dress on her wedding day
While wedding dresses can come in all shapes, sizes, colours and styles, one thing is pretty common: they can be rather difficult to get into sometimes. On the morning of the wedding, be prepared to help the Bride get into her wedding dress so that she’s able to look as perfect as she’s been dreaming of. It’s something that doesn’t seem like a big task but can be incredibly stressful on the wedding day.
(Pictured: Huyen and her bridesmaid on the morning of Huyen's wedding)
8 - Know where you’ll be walking/standing prior to the event:
While this will be covered during rehearsal, it’s always a good idea to make a note of where you’ll be expected to be standing or walking throughout the duration of the wedding ceremony, that way there are no hiccups on the big day with positioning, it ensures the ceremony rolls out the best way possible. Bonus tip: be sure to stand straight and hold your bouquet low.
9 - Be social
On your loved ones wedding day, they tend to have a bunch of people waiting around to talk to the Bride or offer congratulations after the ceremony. This can easily become quite overwhelming for the newlyweds, so offer a helping hand by socialising with and talking to those that may be waiting to speak to the Bride, it’ll help give your friend a bit of breather room by acting as a temporary distraction. On top of this, after the Bride and Groom have done their first dance, the bridesmaids and groomsmen are generally looked at as the life of the party, so live up to it and get out on the dance floor!
10 - Give a speech at the ceremony:
It’s rather common for bridesmaids to give speeches during the ceremony for all the obvious reasons; you’re someone the Bride considers close and loves, you’ve also probably got some type of history with the Bride. When it comes to giving speeches, it can become pretty stressful quite fast trying to write the perfect one but don’t over-stress it: keep it short, funny & light!
(Pictured: Carina with her bridesmaids)
Be sure to purchase your bridesmaid gown, shoes and/or accessories relatively early. There is no worse feeling than leaving something until the last minute only to find out that you can’t get it in time for the wedding. Avoid the stress by planning to do it as early as you’re capable of to lock it in and have that peace of mind.
If the wedding requires you to find your own accommodation somewhere, be sure to plan that ahead of time before you’re left without a place to stay!
Ultimately, you may do end up needing to do some of these (or all) and having some information to guide you is always good, but don’t forget the most important part of a wedding: celebrate love and make it a happy, joyous occasion. When your friend comes walking down the isle in her wedding dress, it’ll all be worth it!