We’ve spent a lot of time covering the responsibilities and etiquette for the bride and her bridesmaids at the wedding, today we wanted to run through some of the duties and things the parents of the groom may be expected to carry out at their sons wedding!
What are the responsibilities for the parents of the groom?
There can be a whole range of expectations for the groom’s parents at the wedding, and while they will be up to the individuals involved in each wedding, there are things such the grooms parents are traditionally expected to do, such as hosting the rehearsal dinner. It’s often expected that the groom’s parents will plan and cover the costs of the rehearsal dinner. If the bride will have a wedding planner helping organise the special day, the planner will often work alongside the groom’s parents to organise the rehearsal dinner as well, especially if it has a theme matching that of the wedding.
Continuing on traditional responsibilities, the mother of the groom is also expected to share a dance with her son during the dancing portion of the wedding reception too. A mother/son dance is generally considered a great way for a groom to honour his mother.
Who walks the groom down the aisle?
When it comes to who will walk down the aisle next to the groom, there are a number of factors that play into this. Aside from the personal preference of the groom, their may be cultural or religious expectations. For example, traditionally in a Christian wedding, the grooms parents are seated second (after the grandparents) and prior to the officiant, the best-man, the groomsmen and groom making their way down the aisle. However, in a Jewish wedding, the groom walks down the aisle with both his mother and father.
What should the mother of the groom wear to the wedding?
One thing the mother of the groom should NEVER wear, according to tradition, is anything white, pearl, off-white or in a similar neutral colour shading to the bride’s wedding gown. However, when it comes to what the mother of the groom will wear, there are many options. Firstly, it’s considered traditional etiquette for the mother of the bride to pick her dress and then co-ordinate with the mother of the groom so that they can have their gowns compliment each other’s. In terms of colours and style, it’s often considered correct etiquette to have something similar (but not matching!) The style and colours of the bridesmaids’ dresses to fit into the overall theme of the wedding.
Ultimately, the vibe of the wedding will dictate what type of garment will be worn. A super formal wedding ceremony will not require the same type of gown as a beach wedding, climate will also likely dictate the style of gown worn too.
What should the father of the groom wear to the wedding?
This one is quite simple, traditionally. The father of the groom generally wears a tuxdeo, or suit, that is quite similar to his son's suit, but not exactly the same.
What does the grooms family pay for at a wedding?
This is a question that comes up a lot and the answer to it can vary. Traditionally speaking, the grooms family can be expected to cover the cost of the engagement ring and the wedding bands. If the soon-to-be married couple are having an engagement party, the grooms family traditionally pays for that too.
There are also a range of ‘minor expenses’ that the groom’s family are traditionally expected to pay for including the bride’s bouquet, the rehearsal dinner, the groom’s suit, the entertainment for the reception, and also the honeymoon, among other things.
It’s important to remember that these are just an outline for how things were handled traditionally - however, it’s common today for the bride and groom to cover all of their own expenses for the wedding. I’d suggest having an open and honest conversation (regardless of which side of this you fall into: parents of the groom or the bride and groom) and go over what financial assistance you may get in terms of wedding costs.
We hope this blog helps for any parents-of-the-groom wondering where they fit in with the wedding and what may be expected of them!