Writing a meaningful wedding card to a friend, family member, or loved one can be so much more complicated than you'd think. With this guide, we wanted to help ease the stress by giving you some tips, ideas, and options to write a wedding card to help avoid writer's block.
Things to keep in mind when writing a wedding card
Address the newly married couple as a pair
Always ensure you address the card to the couple. Even if you might be sending it to a distant cousin getting married to someone you're not familiar with, or someone you've never met, it's essential to be mindful when sending the card. It's considered respectful to put the names of both individuals on the card, or if you want to simplify it, address it to "Mr & Mrs *enter surname here*" — that way, it makes both feel as though you see the individuals as one combined couple. Another etiquette tip is to check the spelling of the names (or surname) of the couple. Nobody wants their name spelled wrong.
Keep it short & to the point (and plan it out!)
A friend of mine once gave me a much-needed yet straightforward piece of advice: "it's a card, not your life story" — keep your card short, simple, and to the point. If you can't fit it all in regular-sized font inside the card, scrap it and start again.
Another great tip is to write a rough draft before you put it into the card itself so you can practice or make changes before actually using the card. It's also a good idea to start shopping around with a bit of time to spare—so that you can find that perfect card for the soon-to-be-married couple.
If you're struggling to find things to write on the card, we've got a few essential topics to cover:
- Well wishes for their marriage and future together as husband and wife.
- Congratulations to the couple on their big day getting married to the love of their life
- Thank the couple for inviting you into their life to be a part of their wedding day
- A personal story relating to the couple or a piece of (positive!) marriage advice
- A loving kind of signing off (e.g., don't sign off 'ty, Jane’—give it a more heartfelt, personal touch such as 'with all my love, Jane’)
Find some excellent examples
Using a platform like Pinterest is a great idea here. You can find so many incredible examples of wedding cards other humans around the world have given to couples and find ones you like to draw inspiration from or emulate for your card.
The most important piece of advice we'll always have is to write from the heart. Trust your intuition and make it meaningful!
We hope this quick run-through gives you a clearer idea of how to get on track when it's your turn to write a wedding card! If you've got any extra advice we haven't covered, please don't hesitate to leave it in the comments below for others that may find it helpful!