Your Guide to Wedding Stationary & Invitations

Like most brides, wedding stationary is something we’re obsessed with. We often get to see the invitations our brides decide on and we love watching the way they set the tone of their wedding events with the stationary they pick. With that in mind, one problem we see many brides face is not knowing where to start when it comes to choosing their wedding stationary, so we wanted to take the time to write a comprehensive guide to help you choose.

First things first: don’t forget to include wedding stationary in your overall wedding budget. Wedding stationary is often a forgotten about expense but it’s important to understand and remember that finding the right person for this will cost you money. While prices will vary based on a number of factors, the average cost of wedding invitations sits at between around $350-$650 for most soon-to-be wed couples.

It’s also often assumed that ‘wedding stationary’ is simply just the wedding invitations, however, for many brides it can be far more than that. While everything is optional and should be suited to your own individual wants and needs with your wedding, here’s some examples of other wedding stationary brides may go for:

Save the date cards

wedding invites and stationary for wedding ceremony

The purpose of a ‘Save The Date’ card is to let your guests know that they are invited to your wedding and should save the date you’ve chosen so that they can attend and celebrate with you. While these are not traditionally considered wedding invitations, they’re very similar yet simplified in nature. A ‘Save The Date’ card for your wedding will be the basic information your guest will need to plan far ahead of time such as the date of your wedding, a short detailed description of the location of your wedding and the area surrounding where it’ll be held. It also lets them know that your formal wedding invitations will be coming in future. It’s common for brides to send our save the date cards about 4-5 months prior to the wedding. (with your formal invitations/RSVP cards going out approximately 8 weeks prior!)

Hen’s Party Invitations

While invitations for your hens party tend to be more informal, some brides send out invitations to their friends. If you’re choosing a specific theme or style for your hens party, sending out an invitation that showcases that can be a great idea. Your next question might be ‘What would I even put on a hens party invitation?” Well, hens party invites generally tend to have information like the address of the venue or place you’ll be holding it (or a starting point if you’ll be visiting several venues!) As well as the date, time and your name with a brief intro to let your friends know what it’s about. Brides tend to get pretty creative with the way they let their friends know it’s time for a hens party.

Interesting fact: a bachelorette party was originally named a hens party because hundreds of years ago, in English language, females in any species were commonly referred to as 'hens' and a grouping of women could be referred to as a 'hens party'. 

Bridesmaid Cards

It’s always a cute gesture to send a card asking your friend to be your bridesmaid. While it’s become quite the tradition to send some form of a gift or a box of goodies, don’t forget to put a card in there too, it creates a nice little sentimental item your friends will cherish long past the wedding day itself. Some brides will send gift boxes, a clothes hanger for their upcoming bridesmaid dresses, a plant such as a mini succulent or something similar or even personalised champagne. There are a ton of options on hand if you choose to go that route but a nice ‘be my Bridesmaid’ card is a great touch or idea.

Engagement Party Invitations

Sending out an invitation to your engagement party is always a good idea, it gives your friends and family a formal invite to celebrate the fact that you and your love will be spending the rest of your lives together. Just be sure to keep your invites to those coming to the wedding to avoid any awkwardness though! (Unless they are people that you will want at the engagement party that won’t be able to make the wedding). Much like other invitations, you’ll want to include the date & time, the full address of the location you plan on having the engagement party (and who’s hosting it if someone is) as well as how to RSVP and a short, detailed introductory phrase to let your friends or family know the purpose of the invite.

Wedding Invitations

Without a doubt, wedding invitations will be the most important part of any wedding stationary you choose to use in the lead up to your wedding day. Not only will they be the way you give your guests all the relevant and important information that they need surrounding your wedding day but they’re also a unique way to really showcase your own individual style and a view of whats to come for the theme of your wedding. The wedding invites will always need all the specific information such as where the wedding reception and ceremony will be held, what time each of those will be held at and on what date as well as any other details your guests will need depending on the type of wedding you’re planning for your special day.

An Itinerary for Extra Wedding Events

wedding invitations on table with bridal bouquet and wedding heels

This is something you can use as an insert if you have any other events planned surrounding your wedding ceremony and reception. For example, there may be a BBQ the day after before everyone leaves or you might be having a destination wedding and wanting to plan some other things in the days before or after for your guests. These are usually just relatively simple inserts that hold the relevant information on what the event is, where it’s going to happen and what time. 

Accomodation Info & Maps

To keep ceremonies private and secluded, a lot of wedding venues can end up being in harder to find places so including the relevant information for some of the less tech-savvy guests is always a good idea to ensure everyone finds their way to the right place on your wedding day. Additionally, if you’re having a ceremony that requires a bit of travel for your guests, listing some potential accomodation options is always a really good idea too!

RSVP Cards

First things first, what does RSVP even mean? We’ve all asked ourselves that at one point or another and the answer is: ‘répondez, s’il vous plaît’ which is French for ‘Respond if you please”. The purpose of RSVP cards is to understand who will be coming to your wedding and who may not be able to make it, a vital piece of information you’ll need for your venue and overall planning. RSVP cards are generally sent out with invitations about 8 weeks prior to your wedding day. Traditionally, brides tend to ensure their RSVP cards (as well as their formal invitations) match the theme of their wedding. It’s important to also have a date you require your guests to respond by, that way you can finalise numbers with your venue within reasonable time, generally three or four weeks prior to the wedding.

Wedding Ceremony Order of Service

Booklets or paper for the order of service during the wedding ceremony is a traditional staple at most weddings, however the way it’s planned out can differ depending on a number of factors such as the brides individual style or religious processions and more. Generally speaking, the order of service for the wedding ceremony covers things such as the names of the Bridal party, the songs or music that will be played during the ceremony and more. Some brides like to personalise these with beautiful words or quotes, memorials to loved ones that have passed away as well as thank you’s to those in attendance and more.

Seating & Table Plans

wedding seating lay out with tables chairs and place cards

Generally, a seating or table plan is displayed at the entrance of the venue your reception will be held at; it allows all guests arriving to see the tables they’ll be sitting at for the course of the reception all in one place to avoid any confusion. These often go hand in hand with place cards that have the table numbers and names on them. Place cards are usually placed on/in front of the seat for each guest to let them know where to sit along with table name cards on each table to identify which table each one is to help keep your guests flowing to their seats & tables to ensure the reception runs smoothly. Additionally, each table tends to have a menu card on it to cover possible food options (if applicable) or to cover what’s on the menu for those that may have some form of dietary restrictions. Menu cards are not always necessary though, especially if you’re only having a small intimate reception with appetisers for example or if you’re having a ‘serve yourself’ buffet for your guests.

Optional Extra Stationary

There are always extra pieces of wedding stationary you may want to add in or use for your wedding and ceremony. For example, a wedding guest book is a tradition most couples tend to choose and go for so that the newlyweds can have all their friends and family sign it during the reception or before they leave. Some brides also choose the personalise their own signage for the venues for things like the bar, bathrooms or other important parts of the venue, doing this allows your signage to match your theme but isn’t a necessity.

Some brides may also choose to have ‘Thank You’ cards for their wedding or wedding related events as a show of appreciation for all the lovely people that take their time out to celebrate with you. This isn’t mandatory but it’s always a possibility if it’s something you want to include. To keep the continuity of your overall wedding theme, you’ll want to make these match the theme you’ve used for things like wedding invites or hens party invites and make these as personal as you wish to. These are very much an individual choice in terms of the information you want to put on them!

wedding stationary at a wedding ceremony

As with all things wedding related, the most important part in all of this is that it suits you and your individual taste or style. Nothing on here is mandatory, so when you’re choosing which wedding stationary you want to include in your planning, just be sure to prioritise what suits you and the theme of your wedding.

If there’s anything on this list you think we missed, please let us know in the comments, we always love the feedback our community has for us!

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